As I heal from living in a narrative built by my parents’ fear, I also have to keep exploring it so I don’t pass down that same rigid cage to my son (cat), or to anyone else I have influence over. And as a reminder: I may not always have a choice in who I influence, but I will always have a choice in being responsible for what I can control My thoughts, my feelings, and my actions. So yeah… maybe this is about Clancy. But also, not at all. It’s about catching myself in the moment before fear writes the story, before I act like it’s a fact. And choosing something that actually feels like me. Even if that means… we’re both just out here learning how far we can go. Mostly congruent, Candice Read more or listen along to more Somewhat Congruent Insights Somewhat Congruent Newsletter Somewhat Congruent The Archive Somewhat Congruent Micro-podcast Coming soon something else Somewhat Congruent Links in my bio ✨ #catsofinstagram #somewhatcongruent #peoplepleaserrecovery #overthinking mentalhealthmatters

She can sit with us. Interested in learning how to meet your inner child use the links in my bio 🌸 #healingjourney #mentalhealth #innerchild #drawing #therapy

8/8 Renovations Revaluations sent out in two months! It has been so fun sharing my real-life insights on navigating people-pleasing, overthinking, and living somewhat congruently. Thank you to everyone who read and listened along!! Would love to hear which insight was your favorite! P.s Kitchen still isn't complete 😂 If you missed any or want to sign up for, links are in my bio! #somewhatcongruent #mentalhealth #peoplepleasingrecovery #overthinker #womanownedbuissness

People-pleasing isn’t kind. Thank you again to @healing_through_chaos_podcast Always fun talking to Jontai!! This clip is packed with info about people pleasing!! #healingjourney #overthinking #mentalhealth #peoplepleaserrecovery #therapistofinstagram

The visual aids we actually needed in fifth grade. Does this make sense to your Brain click my links in the bio for more free resources!! if this makes sense to your brain and you’re looking for a therapist, I see clients in Pennsylvania, Georgia, and Florida… link also in bio ✨ #mentalhealth #healingjourney #peoplepleasingrecovery #overthinking therapy

Tomorrow let’s people please less Dont know how? Use link in bio to snag my free people pleaser recovery download! #healingjourney #peoplepleaserrecovery #overthinking #mentalhealth #therapistofinstagram

Doing your best doesn’t always mean things go smoothly. Sometimes it looks like juggling everything....work, growth, relationships, stress and still missing the mark in someone else’s eyes. Lately, I’ve been deep in the chaos: building, creating, renovating (literally and emotionally). And in the middle of it, I had to face a hard truth: 👉 I can do my best… and someone can still feel hurt. 👉 More than one thing can be true at the same time. This week’s reminder: You’re allowed to give yourself grace and take accountability. You’re allowed to honor your effort and respect someone else’s feelings. Growth isn’t about getting it perfect; It’s about getting more honest. With yourself. With others. With the moment you’re in. 📖 You can read the full post on my website (check the archives!) 💌 And if this resonates, sign up for my weekly newsletter (links in bio) Confessions of a recovering people-pleaser. #SomewhatCongruent #RenovationRevelations #DoingMyBest #EmotionalGrowth #SelfAwareness #PeoplePleaserRecovery #Boundaries #RealLifeGrowth #MindsetShift #Authenticity

Can’t remember the last time you considered yourself first…or at all? This one is for you. People-pleasing isn’t a personality trait…it’s a survival strategy. A strategy your system learned to stay safe, connected, or valued. Maybe you step into the helper role automatically. Maybe you say “yes” while your whole body is screaming “no.” Maybe you’re holding everything together on the outside while quietly falling apart on the inside. Boundaries feel confusing, heavy, or guilt-filled. Your needs feel optional.  Other people’s expectations feel urgent. And you’re tired …not just physically, but emotionally and spiritually. If this resonates, you’re not broken you adapted. I like to think about congruency as a simple pie chart: self, other, and context.  The goal is to balance each piece as best as we can. And if you’re stuck in people-pleasing, I can almost guarantee you’re not considering yourself enough. If this resonates with you: Journal. Draw your own pie chart. Explore what a different calibration could look like. Talk with a therapist. If you’re in GA, PA, or FL and looking for support, check the links in my bio. My newsletter Somewhat Congruent explores this work every week, and is a space for support and understanding. Are you a People-Pleaser? #peoplepleasing #boundaries #selfgrowth #healingjourney #mentalhealthawareness

All my younger versions of me very much want to meet the younger versions of you. Congruent soul therapy prioritizes all of you and encourages healing and connection to the younger self especially the younger you received messages that may not have promoted the kindest self talk and steered you away from considering yourself… and now these narratives are standard in your adult brain…. Congruent soul also promotes the connection to the whimsical silly versions of you that are just begging to come out and play!! Download the inner child discovery challenge and find your joy today- link in bio If you or anyone you know is struggling with people pleasing, anxiety, or negative self talk…you are not alone and help is out there!! Schedule a 15 min consultation call for free-link in bio #mentalhealth #innerchild #peoplepleasingrecovery #therapy #therapistsofinstagram

Please allow me to introduce myself I’m a therapist with snacks and sage I’ve been overthinking a long, long while Recovering people-pleaser with boundaries and rage I was ’round when your inner child Had their moment of doubt and pain Made damn sure that people-pleasing Was a trauma response, not fate Pleased to meet you Hope you guess my game What’s puzzlin’ you It’s your nervous system, babe… A therapy parody of Sympathy for the Devil by The Rolling Stones Because this is how my brain works, and I will always choose whimsy. Send to a friend who has been talking about starting therapy Links in bio! #mentalhealthmatters #peoplepleaserrecover #overthinking #healingjourney #therapistlife