Weekly-ish reflections from real life: overthinking, people-pleasing, nervous system overload, boundary struggles, identity spirals, and the quiet moments where things finally start to make sense.
If you’re someone who thinks deeply, feels a lot, and sometimes gets stuck trying to “figure it out” in your head…
This is for you.
This isn’t productivity advice or “fix yourself in 5 steps.”
It’s pattern-noticing, meaning-making, and learning how to respond instead of spiraling.
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Do You Live Life Like You Are Dying?
For years, “live like you’re dying” meant doing more, faster. But what if real presence—not urgency—is the truest way to live? A reflection on unnoticed narratives, mindfulness, and learning to slow down.
Please Don’t Touch Me (And What That Reveals About Congruency)
Sometimes “please don’t touch me” is a boundary. Sometimes it’s avoidance. This reflection explores congruency, embodiment, and what it means to live aligned in mind, body, and spirit, not just thought.
How Far will You Go?
When fear and control collide, how do you choose what’s right? A reflection on boundaries, self-awareness, and learning to act in alignment—even when it’s uncomfortable.
Ask Yourself: “What is the goal of me saying this?”
What is the goal of saying it? A $3 juice shot, a stressed partner, and a moment that could have spiraled. A reflection on financial scarcity, emotional regulation, and choosing congruence over reaction.
More Than One Thing Can Be True (Even When You’re Pissed Off)
Renovation Revelations #7 dives into the messiness of family, love, and personal boundaries. Candice shares a story about her dad testing her limits during the kitchen renovation, showing how more than one truth can coexist, how congruence allows you to care for yourself while considering others, and why each interaction is an opportunity for growth.
Did you do your best?
You can do your best and someone can still be disappointed. That doesn’t make you terrible.
It means more than one thing can be true.
This is what it looks like to regulate, reflect, and align instead of spiraling.
Let Them Think What They Think
Some people may see me as ungrateful.
In a moment, that might even be true.
But one moment does not define a whole person.
I can honor my feelings, act in alignment, and release the need to control how I’m perceived.
Midol, Dunkin’, and a One-Degree Shift
On Friday the 13th, I asked my dad to buy me Midol.
It sounds small. It wasn’t.
What followed was a one-degree shift in a story I’d been carrying since I was 13 — about periods, discomfort, and handling everything alone. Sometimes healing isn’t dramatic. Sometimes it’s just asking one more time.
In the Moments I Chose Myself
Congruency isn’t selfish. It’s honest.
In the moments I choose myself: my thoughts, my feelings, my actions. I also chose connection.
What we call luck might just be alignment compounding over time.
Some Luck Takes Time
Not all luck is instantaneous.
Some luck is the long game.
The more congruent choices I make—aligning thoughts, feelings, and actions—the more “lucky” I become.
The jackpot wasn’t random. It was built.
Everything Works Out in My Favor (Even When It Annoys Me)
I can be annoyed that I had to repaint my kitchen and be deeply grateful for the men who rebuilt it. Congruency is holding both. It doesn’t have to be all or nothing. It can be learning and loving….at the same time.
No Issues Here
Somewhat Congruent is where reflection meets real life.
It’s the space between polished and feral — where I unpack mental load, invisible labor, relationships, and the small shifts that change everything.
Not perfectly aligned.
Just honest.
I don’t know about snake oil, but I sure have snake milk
As the Year of the Snake comes to a close, I’m reflecting on truth, shedding old patterns, and the grief and gratitude that come with growth. Preparing for the Year of the Horse means releasing what no longer fits and stepping forward aligned, even when it’s uncomfortable.
When Your Expectations Need A Reality Check
I keep relearning the same lesson in new ways. When context changes, my needs change too. This is a reminder to stop pushing through transitions and start honoring what’s actually happening.
“Late”… but not a dollar short
What if being “late” isn’t a failure, but a mindset shift? This reflection explores fake deadlines, cognitive distortions, and the freedom that comes from giving yourself permission to change the timeline.
Stop Calling It Kindness: The Truth About People-Pleasing
People-pleasing sounds kind, but it often means abandoning your own needs, boundaries, and values. When too much of your energy goes toward others, something has to give — and it’s usually you. This reflection explores why people-pleasing feels so exhausting and what it actually costs.
The Side Quest I Didn’t See Coming
I thought I knew what the next chapter would look like. I stepped down from a leadership role, expecting more time to create, coach, and build something familiar. Instead, one small decision led to many others — and suddenly, I found myself starting my own therapy practice. This wasn’t the plan. But it turns out, it’s exactly where I was meant to land.
Vacation Broke My Body
Vacation didn’t relax me… it shut me down. What I thought was burnout turned out to be my nervous system finally feeling safe enough to rest. A reflection on exhaustion, regulation, and why rest isn’t failure.
You Don’t Have to Know Before You Begin
“What do you do when you don’t know what to do?”
You guess. You try. You learn. In this reflection on starting a private practice, I share why confidence isn’t about having all the answers…it’s about trusting yourself enough to begin anyway.
Do you actually know yourself, or just what others are comfortable with?
What if you don’t really know yourself, not because you’re broken, but because you were never given the space to explore? A moment outside with my cat Clancy sparked a deeper reflection on identity, control, and what happens when we grow up inside someone else’s comfort zone.