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Weekly-ish reflections from real life: overthinking, people-pleasing, nervous system overload, boundary struggles, identity spirals, and the quiet moments where things finally start to make sense.

If you’re someone who thinks deeply, feels a lot, and sometimes gets stuck trying to “figure it out” in your head…

This is for you.

This isn’t productivity advice or “fix yourself in 5 steps.”

It’s pattern-noticing, meaning-making, and learning how to respond instead of spiraling.

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How Far will You Go?

How Far will You Go?

When fear and control collide, how do you choose what’s right? A reflection on boundaries, self-awareness, and learning to act in alignment—even when it’s uncomfortable.

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More Than One Thing Can Be True            (Even When You’re Pissed Off)
People-Pleasing & Boundaries Candice Coughenour People-Pleasing & Boundaries Candice Coughenour

More Than One Thing Can Be True (Even When You’re Pissed Off)

Renovation Revelations #7 dives into the messiness of family, love, and personal boundaries. Candice shares a story about her dad testing her limits during the kitchen renovation, showing how more than one truth can coexist, how congruence allows you to care for yourself while considering others, and why each interaction is an opportunity for growth.

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In the Moments I Chose Myself

In the Moments I Chose Myself

Congruency isn’t selfish. It’s honest.
In the moments I choose myself: my thoughts, my feelings, my actions. I also chose connection.
What we call luck might just be alignment compounding over time.

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More Than One Thing Can Be True at a Time
Candice Coughenour Candice Coughenour

More Than One Thing Can Be True at a Time

Struggling with overthinking, people-pleasing, or all-or-nothing thinking? Learn why more than one thing can be true at a time and how this shift reduces guilt, burnout, and emotional overwhelm.

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