A collection of honest, Somewhat Congruent reflections on boundaries, burnout, identity, and learning to trust yourself in real time.
No fixing.
No pretending.
Just noticing, recalibrating, and taking the next honest step.
Read through the insights. Take what resonates. Leave the rest.
Coming Soon:
An Even More Aggressively Human Version
Everything Works Out in My Favor (Even When It Annoys Me)
I can be annoyed that I had to repaint my kitchen and be deeply grateful for the men who rebuilt it. Congruency is holding both. It doesn’t have to be all or nothing. It can be learning and loving….at the same time.
No Issues Here
Somewhat Congruent is where reflection meets real life.
It’s the space between polished and feral — where I unpack mental load, invisible labor, relationships, and the small shifts that change everything.
Not perfectly aligned.
Just honest.
I don’t know about snake oil, but I sure have snake milk
As the Year of the Snake comes to a close, I’m reflecting on truth, shedding old patterns, and the grief and gratitude that come with growth. Preparing for the Year of the Horse means releasing what no longer fits and stepping forward aligned, even when it’s uncomfortable.
When Your Expectations Need A Reality Check
I keep relearning the same lesson in new ways. When context changes, my needs change too. This is a reminder to stop pushing through transitions and start honoring what’s actually happening.
“Late”… but not a dollar short
What if being “late” isn’t a failure, but a mindset shift? This reflection explores fake deadlines, cognitive distortions, and the freedom that comes from giving yourself permission to change the timeline.
Stop Calling It Kindness: The Truth About People-Pleasing
People-pleasing sounds kind, but it often means abandoning your own needs, boundaries, and values. When too much of your energy goes toward others, something has to give — and it’s usually you. This reflection explores why people-pleasing feels so exhausting and what it actually costs.
The Side Quest I Didn’t See Coming
I thought I knew what the next chapter would look like. I stepped down from a leadership role, expecting more time to create, coach, and build something familiar. Instead, one small decision led to many others — and suddenly, I found myself starting my own therapy practice. This wasn’t the plan. But it turns out, it’s exactly where I was meant to land.
Vacation Broke My Body
Vacation didn’t relax me… it shut me down. What I thought was burnout turned out to be my nervous system finally feeling safe enough to rest. A reflection on exhaustion, regulation, and why rest isn’t failure.
You Don’t Have to Know Before You Begin
“What do you do when you don’t know what to do?”
You guess. You try. You learn. In this reflection on starting a private practice, I share why confidence isn’t about having all the answers…it’s about trusting yourself enough to begin anyway.
Do you actually know yourself, or just what others are comfortable with?
What if you don’t really know yourself, not because you’re broken, but because you were never given the space to explore? A moment outside with my cat Clancy sparked a deeper reflection on identity, control, and what happens when we grow up inside someone else’s comfort zone.
A little hope for the short, dark days ahead
Learn practical ways to combat Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD) and boost your mood this winter. Tips for mindful routines, light therapy, and self-care to help overthinkers and sensitive adults thrive.
Your Empathy Might Just Be Overthinking
Discover how overthinking can mask under-feeling, and learn practical strategies to realign your thoughts, feelings, and actions. Perfect for overthinkers, people-pleasers, and sensitive adults.
More Than One Thing Can Be True at a Time
Struggling with overthinking, people-pleasing, or all-or-nothing thinking? Learn why more than one thing can be true at a time and how this shift reduces guilt, burnout, and emotional overwhelm.
Why Decision Fatigue Hits So Hard
Decision fatigue isn’t a flaw… it’s a nervous system response. Learn why choices feel overwhelming and how to gently move out of freeze mode.
Something Wicked (and Overthought) This Way Comes
Overthinking can turn small worries into full-blown fear spirals. Learn how anxiety, imagination, and “scary emotions” like shame or envy show up — and how bringing awareness can soften their power.
Hello Darkness, My Old Friend: Finding the Grey Area in the Dark Half of the Year
Struggling with seasonal affective disorder, burnout, or all-or-nothing thinking during darker months? A therapist shares reflections on slowing down, creating rituals, and finding the grey area between extremes.