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Somewhat Congruent + Aggressively Human

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Aggressively Human is the ongoing, unfiltered extension of my writing.

  • Unlike the Somewhat Congruent newsletter, which delivers short-ish, reflective insights, this page is for longer essays, bold reflections, and stories I can’t send in an email.

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Aggressively Human: Cry on the Inside Like a Woman
people-pleasing, Congruency, Relationships Candice Coughenour people-pleasing, Congruency, Relationships Candice Coughenour

Aggressively Human: Cry on the Inside Like a Woman

Women are often taught to carry emotional weight quietlyâ€Ķto cry on the inside, soften their reactions, and manage the feelings of others before their own. But what happens when that silence breaks? This piece explores the difference between true emotional expression and defensiveness, the hidden cost of over-functioning in relationships, and the moment many decide they will no longer shrink themselves to preserve someone else’s comfort.

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